I remember, when I was a kid, about 8 years old, I wasn't bullied at school, at my school bus, at the playground even, I'll tell you where I was bullied: right outside my doorsteps! Thats right! No, actually the door was a few steps away but nonetheless, if you're reading this you get the picture. There were these saudi kids of people whom the locals call "Baddus", its because they are the natives, some of these kids were black and some like me.
What they did was, every single day when I stepped out of my school bus, after school was over that is, I would find them right outside the main gate, quite a bunch of them actually, and it was this guy Abdullah, who would start a fight with me, he would punch me to the ground, with my school bag still on, and would hold my arms tightly so that I wouldnt be able to fight back, he was obviously stronger. The rest of the guys would either enjoy the show, or would just call out some names I wouldn't understand. Yup, they would bully me up pretty good before I would ring the door bell and mom would open the door. Did I tell you these guys were very innovative? Some times they would spray water on me with those damn water guns, and punch me afterwards.
Nobody would bully me at school though, because I was bigger than most, but I had this unusual friend in the later years who always wanted to fight me for no reason, I would say yeah why the hell not, and in the end of the fight, we would just shake hands,and pretend it never happened, no he wasn't an imaginary friend. I was the kind of guy who wouldn't back down, but luckily never got into intense fights.
But enough about me, no wait there's another story in which my mom and me had made this nice looking paper model of a chandelier thingy, and some guy from another class rips it a little, only to prize himself a fierce punch in the abdomen by me, you see, no one messes with what my mom and me have worked on!!
So lets move on, and talk a little about the great question that has troubled scientists all over the world!... How to deal with bullies? And obviously only the scientists are troubled because the bullies don't have to worry about anything! From here, you can either be Dexter who has a Lab and design a bully proofing robot!
Or become like Bart Simpson and be too cool for the bullies to handle, or better yet, become a bully yourself!
These aren't really the answers, atleast not in the practical world, where you are at the center of it all, all alone, with no one to protect you and become vulnerable to some everyday bullying.
I actually answered my own question about dealing with bullies right there! The answer is to realize that fact, with you being one on one, or in some cases one on many! You have to deal with them yourself. It doesn't matter what the conditions are, if you're a guy or a girl, too big or small!! Try to find help by reporting only if the conditions get really worse, which is only in rare cases.
..... So where was I?
Yes, the part where you
1. Fight the bullies and hit them right in the eye!
2. If you think there is a Gandhi in you, maybe you can resort to reasoning, but the reason why it wont work is because the bullies aren't really enlightened enough to understand your deep thoughts! And you will make the situation worse!
3. Never try to provoke them, just try to avoid them as much as possible, remember!, its just a phase in your life!
4. If they try to take your lunch money, or your whole lunch, divide that money evenly and hide the other part of the money at a secret place, possibly your bag, your socks or whatever. If its your lunch, then try eating it secretly a period before lunch begins, or in the time gaps that you get after every period ends.
5. If they are throwing names at you because of the way you look, try changing your looks, if youre wearing glasses: Dont wear them!, If you look like a nerd: Start NOT looking like one!, If you're wearing braces: glue some fake shiny diamonds on them! If its because of you're accent: Try adopting to something else! But please deal with it yourself!
6. It can get difficult if the bullies are outside school premises, just ignore them and walk away, they will eventually get tired of it! (Only in my case the bullies were a little inventive!), if that is the case, switch the route to wherever it is that you want to go! But just avoid them!
7. Last and the least, if all of the above dont work, pray for superman!
So the moral of the story is kids, always improvise. This is all just a learning process, every kid has to go through it, and face it whatever way he/she can. Remember, if the bullies can be inventive, you're out there to be a freak'in scientist!
And lastly, convince yourself of the following, although just metaphorically in this case:
Whatever that doesn't kill you, only makes you, stronger!
What they did was, every single day when I stepped out of my school bus, after school was over that is, I would find them right outside the main gate, quite a bunch of them actually, and it was this guy Abdullah, who would start a fight with me, he would punch me to the ground, with my school bag still on, and would hold my arms tightly so that I wouldnt be able to fight back, he was obviously stronger. The rest of the guys would either enjoy the show, or would just call out some names I wouldn't understand. Yup, they would bully me up pretty good before I would ring the door bell and mom would open the door. Did I tell you these guys were very innovative? Some times they would spray water on me with those damn water guns, and punch me afterwards.
Nobody would bully me at school though, because I was bigger than most, but I had this unusual friend in the later years who always wanted to fight me for no reason, I would say yeah why the hell not, and in the end of the fight, we would just shake hands,and pretend it never happened, no he wasn't an imaginary friend. I was the kind of guy who wouldn't back down, but luckily never got into intense fights.
But enough about me, no wait there's another story in which my mom and me had made this nice looking paper model of a chandelier thingy, and some guy from another class rips it a little, only to prize himself a fierce punch in the abdomen by me, you see, no one messes with what my mom and me have worked on!!
So lets move on, and talk a little about the great question that has troubled scientists all over the world!... How to deal with bullies? And obviously only the scientists are troubled because the bullies don't have to worry about anything! From here, you can either be Dexter who has a Lab and design a bully proofing robot!
Or become like Bart Simpson and be too cool for the bullies to handle, or better yet, become a bully yourself!
These aren't really the answers, atleast not in the practical world, where you are at the center of it all, all alone, with no one to protect you and become vulnerable to some everyday bullying.
I actually answered my own question about dealing with bullies right there! The answer is to realize that fact, with you being one on one, or in some cases one on many! You have to deal with them yourself. It doesn't matter what the conditions are, if you're a guy or a girl, too big or small!! Try to find help by reporting only if the conditions get really worse, which is only in rare cases.
..... So where was I?
Yes, the part where you
1. Fight the bullies and hit them right in the eye!
2. If you think there is a Gandhi in you, maybe you can resort to reasoning, but the reason why it wont work is because the bullies aren't really enlightened enough to understand your deep thoughts! And you will make the situation worse!
3. Never try to provoke them, just try to avoid them as much as possible, remember!, its just a phase in your life!
4. If they try to take your lunch money, or your whole lunch, divide that money evenly and hide the other part of the money at a secret place, possibly your bag, your socks or whatever. If its your lunch, then try eating it secretly a period before lunch begins, or in the time gaps that you get after every period ends.
5. If they are throwing names at you because of the way you look, try changing your looks, if youre wearing glasses: Dont wear them!, If you look like a nerd: Start NOT looking like one!, If you're wearing braces: glue some fake shiny diamonds on them! If its because of you're accent: Try adopting to something else! But please deal with it yourself!
6. It can get difficult if the bullies are outside school premises, just ignore them and walk away, they will eventually get tired of it! (Only in my case the bullies were a little inventive!), if that is the case, switch the route to wherever it is that you want to go! But just avoid them!
7. Last and the least, if all of the above dont work, pray for superman!
So the moral of the story is kids, always improvise. This is all just a learning process, every kid has to go through it, and face it whatever way he/she can. Remember, if the bullies can be inventive, you're out there to be a freak'in scientist!
And lastly, convince yourself of the following, although just metaphorically in this case:
Whatever that doesn't kill you, only makes you, stronger!
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