Bulls eye!... A mini guide to fighting bullies!

I remember, when I was a kid, about 8 years old, I wasn't bullied at school, at my school bus, at the playground even, I'll tell you where I was bullied: right outside my doorsteps! Thats right! No, actually the door was a few steps away but nonetheless, if you're reading this you get the picture. There were these saudi kids of people whom the locals call "Baddus", its because they are the natives, some of these kids were black and some like me.
What they did was, every single day when I stepped out of my school bus, after school was over that is, I would find them right outside the main gate, quite a bunch of them actually, and it was this guy Abdullah, who would start a fight with me, he would punch me to the ground, with my school bag still on, and would hold my arms tightly so that I wouldnt be able to fight back, he was obviously stronger. The rest of the guys would either enjoy the show, or would just call out some names I wouldn't understand. Yup, they would bully me up pretty good before I would ring the door bell and mom would open the door. Did I tell you these guys were very innovative? Some times they would spray water on me with those damn water guns, and punch me afterwards.

Nobody would bully me at school though, because I was bigger than most, but I had this unusual friend in the later years who always wanted to fight me for no reason, I would say yeah why the hell not, and in the end of the fight, we would just shake hands,and pretend it never happened, no he wasn't an imaginary friend. I was the kind of guy who wouldn't back down, but luckily never got into intense fights.

But enough about me, no wait there's another story in which my mom and me had made this nice looking paper model of a chandelier thingy, and some guy from another class rips it a little, only to prize himself a fierce punch in the abdomen by me, you see, no one messes with what my mom and me have worked on!!

So lets move on, and talk a little about the great question that has troubled scientists all over the world!... How to deal with bullies? And obviously only the scientists are troubled because the bullies don't have to worry about anything! From here, you can either be Dexter who has a Lab and design a bully proofing robot!
Or become like Bart Simpson and be too cool for the bullies to handle, or better yet, become a bully yourself!
These aren't really the answers, atleast not in the practical world, where you are at the center of it all, all alone, with no one to protect you and become vulnerable to some everyday bullying.

I actually answered my own question about dealing with bullies right there! The answer is to realize that fact, with you being one on one, or in some cases one on many! You have to deal with them yourself. It doesn't matter what the conditions are, if you're a guy or a girl, too big or small!! Try to find help by reporting only if the conditions get really worse, which is only in rare cases.



..... So where was I?
Yes, the part where you
1. Fight the bullies and hit them right in the eye!
2. If you think there is a Gandhi in you, maybe you can resort to reasoning, but the reason why it wont work is because the bullies aren't really enlightened enough to understand your deep thoughts! And you will make the situation worse!
3. Never try to provoke them, just try to avoid them as much as possible, remember!, its just a phase in your life!
4. If they try to take your lunch money, or your whole lunch, divide that money evenly and hide the other part of the money at a secret place, possibly your bag, your socks or whatever. If its your lunch, then try eating it secretly a period before lunch begins, or in the time gaps that you get after every period ends. 
5. If they are throwing names at you because of the way you look, try changing your looks, if youre wearing glasses: Dont wear them!, If you look like a nerd: Start NOT looking like one!, If you're wearing braces: glue some fake shiny diamonds on them! If its because of you're accent: Try adopting to something else! But please deal with it yourself!
6. It can get difficult if the bullies are outside school premises, just ignore them and walk away, they will eventually get tired of it! (Only in my case the bullies were a little inventive!), if that is the case, switch the route to wherever it is that you want to go! But just avoid them!
7. Last and the least, if all of the above dont work, pray for superman!

So the moral of the story is kids, always improvise. This is all just a learning process, every kid has to go through it, and face it whatever way he/she can. Remember, if the bullies can be inventive, you're out there to be a freak'in scientist!
And lastly, convince yourself of the following, although just metaphorically in this case:
Whatever that doesn't kill you, only makes you, stronger!

Free

Some anonymous Bahranian protester got a video of the army open firing at them while hiding behind a date palm tree, someone got shot and some injured. This is what world news will tell you, after they get their hands on the potentially violent video, they will show it also, so that we all can mourn the dead, bad mouth the government, the leaders, and possibly some of us will pray. The reason why  it comes to us as a surprise, is that we fail to imagine such atrocities being committed in our time, our time of freedom, media and television, people with knowledge and wisdom.

There are those who justify such acts, those who have power, to dictate and to rule by their words only. They are capable of this and we can witness that through the Bahranian protests, not even the leaf falling down from the tree and touching the very ground after the Egyptian revolution. We do live in these times of desperation, but lucky enough to be ruled by governments that dont care for the people but their own survival, and in this process, we survive and thrive.

The people of these countries are beginning to realize that they are not being given enough freedom by their kingdom, and feel the need for uprising, as they compare their own country by the governments that rule the others. Some how they feel that enough is not enough, while their kingdoms feel otherwise. And their rulers who, have already gone through all the phases of absolute power, and the intoxication that it brings, fail to recognize that their time is over, and their people now have the thinking ability that exceeds their own, so much that they can form their own government, and become truly free. The rulers do not realize that they are also ready for the price, that freedom will bring. We are not living in the age of empires, but the age of bankers, journalists, doctors, architects and engineers. If we are the ones making this world, we should be the ones to rule it also. If we are the ones who are creating a generation, we will be the ones, to become the architects of our own destruction. Every thing ends up with some irony.

But the only ones who are truly free, are those who impart their knowledge to people with none, thus freeing their minds from fear of hunger, from the fear of anger, and the fear of evil. These are people who feel for others the way they feel for themselves, and they fear nothing not because they exist among fearless people, or because they were brought up that way, but because they have their own interpretation of their knowledge and wisdom, and were never spoon fed by society, and they are always firm in what they believe, and not even a hail storm can bring that down, because that is something that cannot be touched or seen. And wealth cannot buy it because they have their way of justifying their belief. How many such people do we have in our society who have the ability to bring us from darkness to light, or more importantly, how many are we going to have in the future?

So this is a request to those who can think, to give sometime to oneself, and to realize their ability and what it is that they can do to influence people, to change the minds for the good, while we live in our everyday life, and routine.Certainly not when we drink a cup of coffee and listen to what the news has to say. Or when we are on facebook!

Love

Usually I write a blog when I feel inspired, by something or someone I might've come across, sometime. Which is probably why I dont write that much, but this one is not inspirational, the reason of it is I feel compelled, and have been aching to write something about, obviously out of scratch, that is my life, and its now or never!

Love is probably something we can define ourselves, without the need of asking or confirming, we can experience it when we are among loved ones, we can give it when someone close to us needs it, and there is so much that we can do with love, the only unconditional love is between the mother and children, while we all think that it is this way, because of obvious reasons such as, the mother has seen her children grow up, has played with them and has had unforgettable moments because of them; I think perhaps, a little differently.

But it is not that very different though, and also it is only a conception, the conception that the reason why mothers love their children unconditionally is because, perhaps they dont even know, that they know their children very well, so much that even if this world changes them in so many ways, their children will always remain who they are from within. Dont start jumping around with joy because you thought the same thing, things will start to get a little complex. It is indeed very difficult to define what that is, because it is deep within the feelings of a mother, that it is just there, that belief that their sons and daughters will always be the same to them. A little example on how can this be this way: imagine a son to a  mother who was very loyal and obedient when he was just a kid, but as he grows up and starts living in a world that he has built, has become ignorant and rash, thoughtless and has no conscience what so ever, for the mother though, he remains the same no matter how much he changes, and how hateful he becomes, the mother somehow truly knows who he is, behind his worldly mask.

Lets get to the complex part, the love between them can be applied to almost in all kind of relationships, to such an extent that one cant even imagine, that it was this way all time. Consider the most complex form of love that to this date has not been defined properly, the love between a boy and a girl. When we think of this, we mostly think of movies and romance, flowers and endless fields, what we fail to think about is that love has got nothing to do with any of it, it is more worldly than we think. The truth is both of them can never love each other the same way, it will always be one of them who loves the other more, and hence the balance. But it does not end here folks. For those who think this is not the truth, will have to think again because, whether they like it or not, they are already living in a dream world, that they have designed prior to their requirements, and they have done simply because, everyone does it with someone, and its all fun. Sorry for sounding so bromide, it is merely because I am not in a relationship like most. Allow me to explain. You cant get to know this from someone like you.

The reason why I say this is because, I have come to a conclusion, which is always subject to change as you can never say anything of this world and its changing nature. But it somehow fits, and I cannot change anyone's view but merely give my own. Loving someone special is like being in love with the world, the difference lies in knowing and adopting this truth, that you cannot truly love someone if you are not prepared and are afraid to face the consequences, if you are not confident in your love, thus if you are not any of these then you are susceptible, so much that you become hesitant to do whatever you can, and by any means to obtain that which you love; be warned, that if you feel this way, it is not love, it is merely, obsession, that blinds you from this world and its people, more importantly, the people who love and care for you. But I shall not leave you here reader, I shall tell you what true love is, or try atleast.

Remember far back when I told you about unconditional love, well, that my friends is true love, and it is not necessary that it be between a mother and her child,  it could amongst anyone, for anyone, and by anyone, that is the complexity of it, ironically also the simplicity of it, or maybe not. You get the point,  if you truly love someone, then be sure about it, because the journey that you shall go on from here will be the one in which, you are the true lover, who does whatever he/she can to prove it, and in the process tries to understand how much it really is, and on the other hand the one that you truly love, will spend their life trying to understand your love, and in the process try to love you equally as much, with both of you failing at every attempt, but only to realize the greater truth, that cannot be found here in this world, and the journey shall take you there, to your common victory. Indeed, very few are those who get to go on such journeys! So remember, no two lovers can equally love each other, but obviously compromise, we are so good at that.

If somehow you feel that this is not the case, then try to not go against the odds in which the world tries to stop the both of you, if you fail, you will realize then it was not your love but your obsession, in which your partner was merely an accomplice, for what other reason would you want to go against the world, other than fear! People who love do not fear, and the people who truly love, understand that fear, and will always believe, will always love, will always have faith and shall take it to their graves if they can, for their love is unconditional, and unshaken. So the question is: Are you up for it? For it is the road least taken!